I’ve just been looking again at the service used at Judy’s funeral – the 1662 Book of Common Prayer.
The vocabulary was rich and strange, the spelling crazy and the grammar challenging – but it was magnificent. It was so alien to the let’s pretend world we live in.
It contains no reference from beginning to end to Judy by name and very little to her at all. Just to a brother departed – which the Rector amended to sister. He is an out and out women’s liberationist and could not help himself tampering.
Judy would have liked the anonymity. She would not have objected hugely to have been mistaken for a brother.
As we sang so well “And we are to the margin come, and we expect to die”. That is a cheerful thought from a certain perspective.
jbrip 
Dear Mr Butland,
I have come across this very moving and detailed blog about Judy and hope you won’t mind me intruding into a family’s grief. Google produced the link to your “And with one bound” page because I am researching Dr Winifred Hackett who is mentioned on that page. However, comments are not allowed there for some reason.
I hope it would be ok for me to quote snippets from that page about the relationship between Judy and Winifred as it seems to have been quite unusual. Winifred, from what I have learned elsewhere, was pretty sniffy about people doing programming who didnt have maths degrees, but clearly that was not an issue with her and Judy. I know that much earlier in her career she was a strong advocate of better technical teaching to those school pupils who would never go to universities so perhaps that was in her mind, in her work with Judy.
What an interesting career Judy had!
I had not previously heard about Judy’s life as an engineer and would like to add her to my database which I am using in order to do short biographies of interesting women engineers as part of the Women’s Engineering Society’s centenary year celebrations – the society puts them into various social media and this other blog: https://www.magnificentwomen.co.uk/engineer-of-the-week-2019 and ultimately I am to pull them all together into a book. If you felt able to let me know Judy’s birthdate I would aim to include her around then.
Thanks
Nina Baker
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We met David at the beach this summer 2019, having seen/noticed, very noticeably,
pushing a wheel chair each day at 1400, head up and back, high speed walking, at that time each day for several years on the middle prom., at Bridlington
Then comes 2019 and David arrives with no wheel chair. I suppose we should have expected the worst, but I persuaded my daughter to approach him and we met an extraordinary gentleman who confirmed our fears. He said that he could not remember names but after a few, “hello David’s” we noticed he could, tho’ no doubt he will have forgotten them again by next year! David, thank you for your enlightening towards dying and your memories of Judy.
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Thanks. The only bit you missed was that in the wheelchair, unfailingly, Judy was cheerfully welcoming all and sundry to Bridlington.
She was a remarkable woman. She did a lot of people a lot of good
David
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